Should These Boys Be Banned From School?

In Advocate by El Rubio100 Comments


In a seeming coincidence, one boy in Mont Belvieu, TX and another in Joshua, TX are being banned from attending school for having long hair.

In Mont Belvieu, TX, four-year-old Jabez Oates is being barred from class because his hair violates the Barbers Hill Independent School District dress code, mandating boys’ hair must be above the eyes, ears and neck. In a statement issued by the district, his mother Jessica Oates was told not to bring Jabez back to school until his hair meets school guidelines.

In Joshua, TX, nine-year-old Habib Dwabe’s mother, Faye Abunijmeh, has been told her son’s hair violates the Joshua Independent School District Dress Code, and that he must cut his hair before school starts. Habib has been growing his hair for four years and intends to donate his hair to Wigs for Kids or another charity.

According to the JISD student handbook the dress code is “…established to teach grooming and hygiene, prevent disruption, and minimize safety hazards.” In the same 115+ handbook the nondiscrimination statement reads, The District prohibits discrimination, including harassment, on the basis of race, color, religion, gender, national origin, age, disability, or any other basis prohibited by law.


We Stand For The Little Guys

The Longhairs’ stance on this issue is, and has been, as follows:

While respecting the wishes of all parents, we staunchly believe men and boys should wear their hair however long they choose.

In the case of school policy, we firmly assert that no child, boy or girl, should be denied their education due to the length of their hair. To Habib, Jabez and his parents, we got your back.

Furthermore, we reject the notion of separate regulatory policies for boys and girls’ hair length, which not only reinforce artificial gender roles and stereotypes but could certainly be argued to be hair discrimination or even gender discrimination.

We staunchly believe men and boys should wear their hair however long they choose.

Bullying, Gender Norms and Hair Discrimination

This topic goes far deeper than school policies, from bullying, adults and external expectations of parents, to forced cutting, gender norms, kids who grow their hair for donating to charity and much more. In May we published an original independent study examining these topics.

Citing comments from moms, interviews, curated content from around the internet, outside research and our own experiences, we tackle these issues head-on, highlighting some of the key layers and revealing what is happening.

A candid examination of bullying, gender norms and selfless acts of kindness. Every parent of a boy with long hair needs to see this. #doitfortheboys

No child should be denied their education due to the length of their hair.

Our mission is simply this: to help boys with long hair, their parents, outsiders, and the rest of the world see that it’s ok to be different—and to show all the boys out there they finally have a place to go.

An excerpt from our letter to the boys:

For every bully who makes fun of you, or says you look like a girl, or gives you grief about your hair, just know there is a community of tens of thousands of men and boys with long hair right here.

They’re big and small, old and young, every color of skin, from every background. They are football, baseball and basketball players, world-changing scientists, CEOs and business professionals, drummers and musicians, action sports heros, US Presidents, courageous warriors, entrepreneurs, fashion experts, coffee roasters, custodians, architects and everything under the sun.

That’s only the short list, because there are men and boys with long hair all around the world. And they’re regular guys. Who choose to be different.

We may have nothing else in common with any of those guys…but we all have long hair. And it means something to all of us.

To show all the boys out there they finally have a place to go.

Show Your Support

Show your support by leaving a comment below, sharing this post, and by visiting both Jabez and Habib’s online petitions to change the respective school district policies banning their locks.



  1. My children attend private Catholic school in Northern New York. My son, grade 3, has been told his hair does not meet dress code rules as it is below the collar by an inch and needs to be cut. I need help finding out what rights we have and help making a petition to change the hair policy. Thank you.

  2. Edinburg,Tx.
    My son is starting his junior year in high school & they just changed their dress code policy at his school (district). We’ve been waiting for years so he could go to high school where we thought they’d let him finally wear his hair long and now 2 years in they change policies to have him wear his hair above the shoulders. I know this is going to mess with his feelings… it’s happened before when he was younger and he was devastated. If anyone has any advice… I’ve been looking all over the internet for laws or rights that may allow him to keep his hair long. This hasn’t interfered with his studies in the past… he’s learned much more grooming techniques with his long hair vs when he had short hair. And yes I do find this gender discriminatory… but what do I do?

  3. I totally feel you. I am in the shoe, my boy have to have his hair cut because the school policy is hair length have to be above the collar. Boy with long hair is the child personality and it’s who they are. This is so discrimination.

  4. Hi, Karen here. I have three sons and they each have long hair. Here in Texas, we too have a dress code at my son’s school that I feel is restricting. I feel that my sons Kyle, Gary, and Joshua, should be allowed to express their masculinity as five year old’s by having as long of hair as they want.

    In addition, girls shouldn’t be allowed to have hair that goes further than their hips. Also, girls shouldn’t be allowed to wear bikinis at the beach if they have long hair. It’s too suggestive for my sons! They’ll just stare.

    1. Author

      You are speaking to the choir Karen! Fully agree with your assertions.

      Were you aware of this notice from the Texas ACLU?

      The ACLU warned Texas school districts that a lawsuit would be coming if they didn’t change their policies.

      I haven’t checked back on the status of this lately so I’m not sure where it stands.

      Would love to keep some dialogue going. Best wishes to you and your family in the meantime!

  5. My son wanted to grow his hair, but his school’s policy was that boy’s hair must not touch the collar. He wrote this letter to his headmaster, and the school listened to his views and then changed their policy to allow boys to grow their hair long. Change is possible, if those in authority are prepared to be open-minded.


    “I am writing this letter to ask you to consider allowing boys to grow their hair long.

    “At the current time, the school policy on appearance is that boys must have short hair. Personally I feel this is wrong. You are saying that because you were born a boy then you must have short hair, whereas girls have a choice of long or short hair. I do not feel that we should use outdated rules of the past on gender stereotyping, and lots of men and boys in this country and all around the world have long hair.

    “There are many reasons why boys might choose to have long hair. They might just like how it looks, or there might be other reasons for example: religion, gender identity (e.g. non-binary children), or to support a charity cause (e.g. growing your hair to donate it to the Little Princess Trust to help children with cancer). Identity and appearance is very important to pre-teens and teenagers, and I think boys at the Senior School should be given a choice about whether to have their hair long or short, just the same as girls do.

    “There is no reason why a boy with long hair cannot appear neat, tidy, and smart. To follow the school rules about hair not being in their eyes, and for safety reasons in science, boys can keep their hair in a ponytail, a ‘man bun’, or a plait. Some famous sportsmen, for example David Beckham, wore a headband to keep their hair out of their eyes when playing sport.

    “Thank you for reading my letter. I hope you will give serious thought about how it is not right to allow girls to have long hair, but make boys cut theirs short. This is the 21st century and we should all try to be as fair as possible, and not discriminatory based on someone’s gender.”

  6. Banned? Of course not!! The boys should and must be judged not by the length of the hair, but by what Dr. King called “the content of their character”.

    1. Since I consider the First Nations people who embrace, preserve, honor, respect, and pass on their culture, traditions and heritage to be among the most beautiful people in North America, I find this item about a boy banned from school to be especially sad. I found in a long hair website a Native American boy who was five years old with long, beautifully epic braids, and unfortunately living or having lived in rural Texas where school administrators are stuck in the 50s. Their parents had to choose for him either school or his culture. To the Oyaté parents facing a similar situation with your sons, let them, and you as well, continue to embrace your traditions and heritage even if it means that nobody accepts them and they be home schooled. Do not let the fools stuck in the Eisenhower era take any part of their culture; instead, they should flaunt it proudly and defiantly. The boys should keep rocking their beautiful, beautiful braids for life. A’ho!

  7. When I was in school this kind of shit was rampant… and after high school 99% of places I applied for work flat told me they wouldn’t hire me because my hair was too long… it caused me bug problems at home, in trying to get my life started, I got treated like a kid when I was well into adulthood… I may not be as successful as I could have been. I may have more of an attitude or chip on my shoulder than I should… but I’m 54 years old now and still have hair down to my ass. And I don’t intend to cut it…. had I not experienced that discrimination, it’s likely I would have cut my hair for whatever reason at some point. But it was the assholes that made such an issue out of something that shouldn’t ever have been one that made me keep it long. And looking back it’s been a blessing. I still look 20 years younger than I am. I still dress like I did in 1983– only now I can buy skinny jeans off the rack instead of taking them to a tailor— I’ve had the good fortune to enjoy spending time with many different lovely and interesting women while most of the guys I know just got fat and old. I made the right choice by sticking to my guns.
    Nobody should be able to f**k with who you want to be. Especially over something that is as unimportant as what you look like. Be a decent human being. That’s whats really important!

  8. I was told by my high school that I had to cut my hair when it was only 5 inches. I still waited 3 more months….

    1. Say you have long hair as part of your religion. Religion is protected by law. Long hair on a male could be considered religious practice.

  9. My family and I just moved down to Brackettville TX from AR. I am finding out about the hair issue. One of my 11 yr old sons wants to grow his hair back out and I have been letting him. But now the school is saying he has to cut it. That the only boys that can have long hair are Native American boys. I am looking for help with this because I do not feel that it is right. If my son wants long hair he can have long hair!! I have always raised my children to be who they want to be. I want them to be comfortable in their own skin. I DO NOT feel it is right for a school to have the power to make me a lair to my child, to tell my child how long he can or cannot have his hair, and to contradict how I have raised him!! Any advice or help is welcome!!

    1. My son has beautiful long hair running down his back. He will start kinder in a yr and already I’m being asked if I will be cutting his hair because of “dress code”. NO. He loves it just like I do. If girls can wear their hair long so can boys. Try me school district, I dare you.

      1. Author

        Glad to have you here Jenna!! Glad to hear your are holding the line. Wondering where you’re located?

        Send your son some hair whips & high fives from The Longhairs!

  10. I believe that laws should be passed to deal with hair discrimination. The only jurisdiction that I know of that banned hair discrimination for everybody is New York City. It was prompted by discrimination against Black people who have hair texture and hairstyles different from the mainstream, but the New York City Human Rights Commission expanded it for everyone. That includes banning employers from making separate hair policies for men and women. I hope it expands into other jurisdictions.

  11. We are dealing with this now. My son is a Jr in High School and has always had long hair. This year he is being told he has to cut it above shoulder length, although he didn’t cut his hair once last year. Our school haws maybe 600 students with pre K thru High School all on one campus. Even a teacher has long hair and isnt made to cut it.

  12. To many appearance is more important then personality. I think that we live in a society made by old rules. Is time to change that. this boys have his own personality with the long hair, why should you private of been what they real want to be?. Let “him” be.

    1. I am 11 years old and fighting the same thing at my school in Sanger, TX.

  13. Interesting. Their policies state, “The District prohibits discrimination, including harassment, on the basis of race, color, religion, GENDER (my caps added), national origin, age, disability, or any other basis prohibited by law.”

    Then, it goes on to say, “The grooming regulations below are expected to be followed by all JISD students:
    1. Boys’ hair should not extend beyond the following limits:
    a. Front – Hair/Bangs, when combed straight down, must not be longer than the top
    of the eyebrows. Side – The entire ear may be covered but should not exceed the
    corner of the jawbone on the sides. Sideburns should not be more than one-half
    inch below the bottom of the ear lobe.
    b. Back – Hair must be cut so that it is no longer than the bottom of the dress shirt
    collar or top of a t- shirt collar.
    2. Boys’ hair will not be worn in tails, ponytails, or buns.”

    If you can’t discriminate based on gender, how can you specify how a certain gender dresses or wears their hair? Sounds to me like gender discrimination… Hypocrisy.

    1. Long hair on a male could be considered religious practice and be protected by religion.

    2. this is my favorite one so far. it is absolutely correct. thankfully my school is fine with men having long hair.

    3. My grandson is 11 years old wears his hair long style neatly comb back behind ears a few inches longer that his neck. Was accepted at catholic school and 2 days after school started he was told by his teacher he has to gut his hair above his collar. During the enrollment time 6 months we were never told anything about his hair or given any information regarding the school rules. Orientation day for new parents no word was mentioned.
      He is been wearing his hair like this since he was 4 years old. He is definitely a boy play baseball and wants to be a profesional baseball player one day. He is a intelligent eager great student letters from previous teacher and principal were given to the school as part of the protocol for acceptance to this catholic school. He is very sad today when he was approached by the teacher like is something wrong with his looks. Trust me is a very good looking clean cut groomed. He looks like any of the baseball players that he follows very manly I must say. I am very troubled by this situation and I feel this rules should have been disclosed during the enrollment period months ago.
      This is clearly discrimination against boys. Girls can have short hair as short as they like why can boys have longer style hair? This is gender descriminstion.

    4. My grandson is 11 years old wears his hair long style neatly comb back behind ears a few inches longer that his neck. Was accepted at a catholic school and 2 days after school started he was told by his teacher he has to cut his hair above his collar. During the enrollment time 6 months we were never told anything about his hair or given any information regarding the school rules. Orientation day for new parents no word was mentioned.
      He is been wearing his hair like this since he was 4 years old. He is definitely a boy, play baseball and wants to be a profesional baseball player one day. He is a intelligent and eager student. Various letters from previous teacher and principal were given to the school as part of the protocol for acceptance to this catholic school. He is very sad today when he was approached by the teacher like is something wrong with his looks. Trust me is a very good looking clean cut groomed young man. He looks like any of the baseball players that he follows very manly I must say. I am very troubled by this situation and I feel this rules should have been disclosed during the enrollment period months ago.
      This is clearly discrimination against boys. Girls can have short hair as short as they like why can boys have longer style hair? This is clear gender discrimination.

  14. I stand for this boys because I have a 6 year old son grade 1 since birth we didnt cut his hair but many big girls like him the problem is bullying in thats why I told to the school you accepted my son or Im gonna sue this school you dont have any standard tolerable hair cut rules that you propose to all male student and I saw some bald and undercut hair of male student studying in that school that is unfair

  15. Control at what cost…. Policy’s that have to teach grooming should not start with cuttting it off. Bullying 101 do not give in to the tyranny. We know there is no fair world but our right will not be taken.. we will fight and stand together

      1. My nephew is fixing to be 11 years old and he attends Eustace isd in tx. He was sent home 2 days in a row saying he had to cut his hair to look like a boy. His hair comes to his neck line and barley comes to his eyebrows. When i called the school i was told we had one week to cut or he was being kicked out. He has ADD, ADHD, and Autisim. He wants long hair and when we told him it had to be cut he had a massive meltdown. Mind you yes he does have bad days but so far this year none but if are forced to cut his hair he wont have just one bad day hell have alot and the school he is attending already doesnt want him there because of his meltdowns. How do i fix this?

        1. Author

          Hi Shawn, happy to hear from you, sad to hear about the situation in Eustace. Forgive the late reply, but what happened with your nephew? Did he end up cutting it?

  16. Stumbled across this after researching the subject. So happy to see this. My son (6 years old) Cruz, was just made to either cut his hair at the academy I placed him in, here in Kauai, Hawaii or he couldn’t attend. I withdrew him the same day. Discriminatory and is bullying. I definitely stand with you guys and agree, schooling and learning should have nothing to do with the length of your hair🙁 So glad to see I’m not the only one!

    1. Author

      Glad to have you here Jess! Sad to hear about what happened with Cruz, I’m actually surprised in Hawaii? In any case we’re glad to hear he didn’t cut it. Stick with us, we stand for the little guys! Send Cruz a hailstorm of hairwhips from The Longhairs.

  17. Very happy I’m using this article for my argument essay about dress codes! Thanks so much

    1. Author

      Hi Mackenzie!

      We’d love to see your essay when it’s completed! Please come back and share it 🙂

  18. I have an update!

    As of this school year, Samson is for the first time ever, enrolled and attending a school outside of the home.
    He is going to a small public charter school, which thus far has been fantastic.
    One of the best parts being…. ZERO POLICIES ON HAIR! There is nothing in their handbook for boys or girls, and how they can have their hair. I have seen girls with blue hair, boys with mo-hawks, and my little longhair fits in fantastically.
    This is a school in a small, rural Arizonan town (with a strong religious influence, I might add.) .
    So if we can look past the physical stereotypes here, I have hope that change will come elsewhere.

  19. You guys are talented and enterprising…you should write a children’s book. “Billy Has Long Hair” or something. You know the issues to address. Include famous longhairs, not okay to bully for hair styles, confidence in being your own person, etc.

    I know it’s like banging your head against a wall to get institutions to change policies to the current century. Sometimes you have to speak in children’s vocabulary to make adults understand, and education usually has more effect than confrontation.

  20. Would anyone imagine the Founding Fathers (all long hair dudes) being banned of school because of their hair length?

    As a long hair dude and proud father of a 7 year old long hair dude, we stand with the little guys! Here is to a ban on senseless rules!

  21. There are worthwhile battles the schools need to focus on fighting – depriving these boys of an education is not one of them. It is unbelievable to me that a dress code would be enforced knowing the end result only hurts a child.

    I stand with these little guys.

  22. Always nonsense when this happens. Long hair has nothing to do with learning, cleanliness, attitude, etc. The boys should be left alone to grow their hair and let if flow long and free!
    There is no more reason a boy should be forced to cut his hair than a girl or anyone else.
    Leave the long hair alone!

  23. As a professional educator, a parent, and a woman seriously involved with a “longhair, I support these boys, and their family position. Clearly the handbook and attitude is outdated and shortsighted . Quality of education has nothing to do with hair length, and everything to do with content of character, attitude, and effort…and that goes for the educators too…

  24. Ridiculous. Teach grooming and hygiene?! They must be deluded, those kids have awesome, well kept, healthy looking manes. I thought mine looked good, but those lads put me to shame.

    It’s an archaic rule which only reinforces outdated gender stereotypes that do nothing but cause harm. Hair length has no effect on learning, and the rules should reflect that.

  25. These boys ought to be allowed to wear their hair as long as they want. I agree that forcing them to cut it short serves to enforce gender stereotypes, and that is just wrong! If their hair is long and beautiful, and they want it that way, I say more power to their beautiful little souls!

  26. That’s amazing how absurd and old the Independent School District Dress Code is. “Teach grooming and hygiene, prevent disruption, and minimize safety hazards”? Gosh… Read that for me is like going back to XVIII century and meeting Marie Antoinette. Together with parents, schools must teach children hygiene principles. That is part of the fundamental learnings. If school is unable to teach that or deal with children’s diverisity, they cannot mirror their incompetence on them, obliging children to a code that is outdated in the time we’re living and on relevant present purposes of individuality and diversity. And why the code targets only boys? That’s a real prejudice matter that cannot be accepted in any terms. These parents are right fighting for their children’s wishes and belives and the school is completely wrong and commiting a terrible mistake trying to prevent that.

  27. I am a biker, metalhead, and Native American, so I have lived my life surrounded by long haired men / boys. To hear this is very saddening. Both men and women are responsible for grooming themselves properly….. Having short hair does not make you “properly groomed” as I have encountered far too many men/boys with smelly messy short hair. A man with well kept, nicely styled long hair shows dedication, patience, self pride, and good hygene. Long hair is much more work than short. My son has long hair on top with shaved sides that we tie back or french braid with feathers and beads sometimes mixed in. He is 2 and LOVES his hair. He is just like his hero, his daddy, who is well groomed, has fantastic hygene, and has a very respectable high paying job that he works very hard at!

    Side point: Most Viking cultures also had long hair….. Vikings we’re OBSESSED with cleanlyness and we’re very vain about their appearance….. They even were there inventors of soap!

  28. My son was in a private catholic school in California from 2011-2015 that had a hair policy for boys. Hair had to be off ears, above eyebrows and not touching the collar on their uniform polo shirt. After a very bad bullying experience, we left that school in 2015 at the end of 3rd grade and my son insisted on growing his hair long. It became part of his identity. He has great hair! It became a problem in 5th grade at public school when the PE teachers told him he had to wear a headband to keep it out of his eyes (girls were not forced to wear them). He sat out a few times when he forgot his headband.

    He is now about to start at an independent middle school in Northern VA and I specifically asked if they had a hair policy. I was happy to hear that while they wear uniforms, they are free to express themselves with their hair. The open-minded schools are out there. If parents push back against the discrimination, the schools will be forced to change policies.

  29. I don’t Facebook often but this upset me something fearce to figure out the tool to repost your post to my group of longhairs. I’m an older longhair that has two longhair grandsons. They had to transfer from a private school to public because of administrators concerns for their long hair. The oldest boy never liked hair cuts and eventually mom and dad just let it flow. Made it easier for number two…

    1. Author

      Jay thanks for sharing sir. I’m glad you were inspired enough to figure out the damn Facebook thing. We especially appreciate you granddaddies out there who have been doing it for decades. Hell, I’ve only had long hair for six years. You guys are the real long hair vets and we’re honored to have you here.

      Saddening to hear about your grandsons, but that’s adversity they’ll have an opportunity to overcome at an early age. May their flow be free!

      Thanks again for writing in Mr. J!

  30. Are girls at this school prohibited from having short hair (which would also be wrong)?

    Let the flow go.

  31. I often wondering what it is with America, in some circumstances they live in the fifties as it goes about sex and what I’ve heared from a friend who live in the USA they know it very well and so good that what is happening there some Dutch will be ashamed of it. And now the hairquestion.. is the USA all soldiers or so.. I know they’ll will fight and die for their country, I wouldn’t because the more rules the more violation. Sorry guys, but sometimes I think the government of the USA is ruled by baby’s, when they will ever grow up? What a bull… that either.. you may not say shit you’ll have to say crab, that sound like religion, that is the opposit of faith or in other words: “Hypocritical!”
    My brother is a editorial member of a prison newspaper, what I’ve read is that many Americans are in jail for somewhat… it isn’t a land where I would goto. nor wanna live. In the Netherlands many prisons are closed, that is because of the ankle band. I can imagine that many Americans hates the police or the system and more and more violence wll grow, you only have to open the newspaper.

    And this silly thing about someone’s hair if it is long or short, if it is a mohawk or somewhat… how stupid they can be, what kind of harm do you do if you got long or short hair. Say it to every school: You are IDIOTS!!! Instead of whining of someones hair you rather give them real education and not the BULLSHIT CUSTOMIZE YOU!!!!!!!!

  32. Let these boys back into school. They are boys, let them be themselves . Who cares if they have long hair.

  33. I do not have children. But when I was growing up, I was not allowed to have long hair. It was short, I hated it. These boys are children. Who cares if they have long hair. It’s wrong what the school and board are doing. Let these boys express themselves. I like having my hair long. I couldn’t when I was growing up. Leave these boys alone. Let them keep their long hair. And let them get back to school.

  34. What’s wrong with this world. We support the long haired boys. Don’t cut your hair because they tell you. There has got to be a school that will let you attend no matter how long your hair is. You boys should stand up and let the hair flow, and keep growing.

    1. Don’t worry, we’re out there! I’m a middle school teacher. The length of my hair never even came up when I was being hired. I’ve been at my school for a few years now and there’s still never been a bad thing said. None of our long haired boys are hassled about it. It’s not even a thought.

  35. People are dumbasses, but y’all know that already.

    Interestingly, my son started a new high school yesterday and he has to wear his hair back and pulled into a bun. You guessed it, girls can wear their hair free flowing.

    This school, fortunately, has a Gender and Sexuality Club. In due time, my son is planning to approach the club leaders and ask them to petition the school dress code to update the gender specific rules for hair.

    Anger (and massive eye rolls that we even have to deal with this crap) into loving action. <3


    A mother with two long-haired boys who are badass rock star human beings.

    1. Author

      Hi Mica! A great way to focus our energy (not the eye roll…the diplomatic action 😉

      We’ll be interested to know how this plays out. It sounds like there is an environment where they may get a warm reception; please do keep us posted.

  36. the more kids that get kicked out of school, the better. kick them all out! these long-haired kids don’t belong in that conformity factory, anyway. long-haired men are the best men and we should be out in the world educating and being educated rather than locked up in some mind-farm

    free the children!

  37. This is blatant discrimination based on sex. This happens in schools and businesses across the U.S. The federal court has upheld that employers are allowed to dictate different hair lengths for men and women and cited social norms . These so called social norms are based on stereotypes and seek to force boys and men to conform. We try to teach kids to be themselves and nurture creativity and self expression yet archaic discriminatory practices are still allowed in schools and the work place. In 2017 it is a shame this is still a problem. I’m the past few years there has been such a push for equality and yet here we are and whether a boy at school or man in the working world we are forced to cut our hair .

    1. Author

      There’s work yet to be done H. Well-articulated, thanks for chiming in.

  38. Total bullshit..every time you turn around someone is changing something. Christmas…statues.. flags. Prayer… I’m 62 and have had long hair most of my years… there is no need of one else cares except these rule makers

  39. I stand with these kids. I bet their teachers are just bald and jealous.

  40. Hair length has no bearing on education. Duh. It must be nice that these school districts have nothing better to do than focus on hair. In my district, the school board meetings are about funding, test scores, campus refurbishment, community involvement, student participation and other “non-hair” issues. Silly us.

  41. I home school my longhair so there is no dress code(and when I say no dress code I literally mean being fully dressed is not required). There was a time that I considered putting him in a private school, and as I read through the manual I read that a boy’s hair must be above the ear lobes, I said, “nope, not happening!” Just a battle I wasn’t in the mood to fight.

    I find it amusing that the dress code speaks of hygiene and safety, etc. but when has a girl with long hair ever been required to cut it for those reasons?
    There is no valid explanation for this except for gender discrimination.
    The fact that a child would be denied access to a school and education that is rightfully theirs, because their hair covers the back of their neck, is ridiculous.

    When are we going to wake up and stop trying to make individuals, that are meant to be different, fit into the same mold? We were designed to bring diversity and character of all different sorts, we were all made with unique gifts and talents to share with one another. What purpose would it serve if we just tried to be like the next person and not allow our true selves to shine through? What are we doing to our children by expecting them to do this?

    A world that I would hate to wake up in, would be one where we are all the same.

    1. Author

      Perhaps in a more conservative day a policy like this was conceived in what the rule-makers believed to be in the best interest of the children. Today, it’s true: simply, “there is no valid explanation for this.”

      It’s just another brick in the wall.

  42. Going your hair out is a journey, a great journey at that. To have a young child be told ” your in the wrong because of your long hair”, to me is very wrong. We should helping them and not hindering them. As a Navajo – as a Human Being, having long hair should be embraced, not cut-off. Let the child continue this journey and enjoy learning at the same time. It’s the right and correct thing to do!!

    1. Are you Native American? If so id love some input into my nephews situation reguarding his hair length at school.

  43. Some adult who is cultivating a diamond in his colon shouldn’t be making rules about hair styles. I bet the boys’ peers didn’t even realize hair length was an issue until the grups started fussing about it.

  44. I live JUST south of Joshua, and I am nine kinds of PISSED that this is happening!

    I’ve been on this long hair journey for 14 months, and I pledge my voice to defend these boys!

  45. as the us constitution allows me, i wear my sword to defend them from that tyranny !!!
    in Belgium or in France, nobody should accept that kind of rules in an elementary school
    the only hair rules are edicted in the professional high schools and the military academies
    j’ ai signé les deux pétitions en souvenir de Gilbert la Mothe de Lafayette et de Davy Crockett, combattants pour la liberté aux usa et au Texas !!!

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      Thanks for signing Chamane, and for bearing the sword! Just don’t accidentally chop your hair off ami.

  46. Firstly, humans and horses are the only two creatures in all creation which have long hair on their head, and they do so for practical reasons, namely to keep the head cool through evaporation of moisture in warm months, and warm in cool months. Secondly, there are more significant differences in human physiology to distinguish between male and female sexes than hair length. We do not live in ancient Rome, where men had their hair cropped short as a social signifier that they owned slaves who could trim their hair on a daily basis, so leave these young boys alone for God’s sake!

    1. I stand with you all.
      I will say how jealous I am of all your amazingly beautiful hair and wish mine could be so awesome 🤓
      Peace, Love and Long Hair
      ☯️ Kappi 👽💜

      1. What about health and safety is so different for boys than it is for girls? I dont see girls having restrictions on their hair due to the way it grows, how long it grows, or the way they style. It’s simply old fashioned thinking. It’s a different time and age. We have allowances for gender fluidity. Why cant our boys wether they are trans or not have hair as long as they want? More and more jobs are allowing for tattoos, piercing, and hair length. Even more so, more jobs are online. It’s time we all put our foots down and stop giving so much power to the school over our children and ourselves.

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