Mitigate Your Suffering Through Mid Phase Awkward Stage

In Educate by Andy Watson7 Comments

Get Hairy or Get Hired?

Around eight months into my hair growth journey—just as I was moving into mid phase awkward stage hair—I started thinking about leaving my full-time job to go part-time, freeing up time to focus on my own projects.

That gave me a monster of a problem: the sort of work I’m qualified for involves wearing a dress shirt, tapping on a keyboard and helping companies work out their business strategies.

Should I get a haircut to make me look more presentable for interviews? Or attempt to get hired looking like somebody went and stuck a bunch of dead worms onto my head?

That’s just one of the predicaments you can find yourself in when you start your journey towards longhaired magnificence.

Andy in mid phase awkward stage hair
At this point things can get messy.

Welcome to The Thick of It

I smashed through early phase awkward stage hair in part I of this series and learned a few tricks along the way. As you know if you’ve been there, it wasn’t easy, but I stuck with it.

In this installment, part II of my three-part series to help you through the awkward stage, we’re focusing on the period 8-12 months into growing it out, or what I like to call “the thick of it.”

At this point things can get messy…and they certainly did for me.

 

The Gruesome Descent Into Mid Phase Awkward Stage Hair

As my hair was so short to begin with, it was around the four-month mark when the awkward stage kicked in.

And it kicked hard. For a few weeks nothing I did made much of a difference. I looked like an idiot, but whenever I felt like I was going to crack, I made sure I used my two-weekend rule.

Whenever I wanted a haircut, I’d remind myself of why I started doing this in the first place, and I waited at least two weekends before quitting it. There was always at least a glimmer of wanting to carry on in that time, so I just kept on going.

Andy, still in the thick of it

Get Your Mop Tidied, But Not Too Often

Around nine months into my journey, my head was beginning to look like it had just emerged from the 1980s, with a full-on mullet hairstyle. For me, that was a step too far.

 

At the time, my end goal was to go for a style that was a fairly even length on the front, sides and the back, so I decided to have the barber cut some length off the back to allow the rest of my hair to catch up.

This did even things out, but unfortunately the resulting hairstyle temporarily made me look like I’d just stepped out of medieval England.

In any case, it’s not a bad idea to at least get your hair trimmed up around the ears and the back of your neck. Always tell your hair cutter you’re growing it out and to keep the length.

Andy coming out of mid phase awkward stage hair.

Straighten To Lengthen

Another technique I learned (maybe a little too late) was using a hair straightener. I have wavy hair, and once I got a bit of length the sides curled out and flipped up to make my head look rather like a mushroom.

Displeased, my girlfriend suggested I try her hair straightener. To this I sneered at first, but eventually figured I would give it a go.

It was one of the best things I did, and I highly recommend trying it. Straightening made my hair look longer and sit more agreeably on my head. It still didn’t look like I had much of a hairstyle, but it definitely helped and gave me the slightest boost of confidence.

My head looked rather like a mushroom.

Lay Down That Lotion

In part I of this series I talked about hair products and ditching the hair gel and wax. Those products are better suited to short hair and will make your hair look firm and crispy or full of goop.

It took me a while to realise this, and there was a string of weeks when my hair was fighting my hair products in a battle zone on my head. If you make the hair product switch early enough it will save you a ton of grief.

As I got into the middle phase, I began seeing lots of smaller hairs sticking up from the top of my head, very annoying. I sorted these by using products called shaping creams and fluff tamers. They feel more like cream than gel or wax and do a great job of smoothing down any stupid flyaway hairs without making your hair look sticky or greasy.

 

Experiment with a few and find the one that’s right for you. For me, a product by Fish Original worked at first, but as my hair got longer I switched to The Longhairs hair serum, which is luxury living for your mane.

Next up, do not fear the hairspray. It can be your friend. I was surprised about this, as I thought hairspray was something that had died way back in the 1980s. Once I get my hair how I want it, a few squirts of the stuff keep it in check. Go for something with firm hold, but not a full-on hair welder.

It took me a while to realise this, and it was a complete mess.

Get Hairy AND Get Hired!

And that job interview? I decided there was no way I would cut my hair to get a job. I wasn’t prepared to throw away months of dues paid just to step into an interview room, with no guarantee I’d even get hired.

The hair straighteners came to my rescue on that occasion and made me presentable enough for interview. Yup, I got the job, and all without ditching my long hair aspirations!

Resolve Not to Cave Through Mid Phase Awkward Stage

There you have it guys, a few tips and tricks that helped get me through the thick of it. I hope these will keep you inching your way to longhaired glory.

Stay tuned for part III, where I’ll cover the exit strategies for final phase awkward stage hair, including hairstyles you can start to rock, as well as tips for the hair salon.

Andy coming out of mid phase awkward stage hair

Until then, do not cave to the head shave! Ride it out through mid phase awkward stage hair and stand proud. Some day soon your locks are gonna rock!

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Are you in the thick of it? Any more tips you can share? Let me know how it’s going in the comments, chap.

 

Get Awkward With Andy

Andy lives in the UK, leaving the London city life in 2015 for the rolling landscape of North Yorkshire. He’s a fitness, science and property renovation writer, marketing strategist, greenhorn guitarist and singer, and he’s been growing his hair out since February 2016.

Andy’s 3-Part Series on Awkward Stage Hair
Breaking Through The Early Phases of Awkward Stage Hair
Mitigate Your Suffering Through Mid Phase Awkward Stage
Surviving Late Phase Awkward Stage Hair

Andy with long hair

Comments

  1. I’m in the thick of it! One thing that has been mentioned but I will reiterate is using sunglasses to hold back the hair. I am in a professional setting so I feared sunglasses would not fly but somehow nobody seemed to notice, I have also used regular glasses, although they don’t fit your face so well.

  2. I’m coming up on 5 months. My hair is straight and thin like angel hair pasta. I think it was after month 3 that I realized that the pomade was no longer working for me. However, since I’d had 3 months of proper hair care with quality shampoo and conditioner, and a trim to shape my hair it was behaving better. On one of my weekend experiments I washed and conditioned my hair but I wanted to see what would happen with no styling product. While it was still pretty damp, I parted the middle and combed each side to the back. I let it dry naturally. By the time it dried I was amazed at how wonderful my hair felt. You can’t really run your fingers through your hair if it’s full of product. It’s just starting to get enough weight to hold itself down. It won’t hold a “style” but it behaves and gave me a chance to get used to feeling my hair on my forehead.

    Currently, I use One ‘n Only Argan styling creme. I apply a little bit to my damp hair, part in the middle and comb the sides back. It holds in position until it dries naturally. When it’s dry it doesn’t look like there’s any product on it. The first couple of weeks doing this I had to apply a bit of hairspray after it dried but now it’s a bit longer and it looks good without the hairspray. (Advice: Don’t use pump dispensers. I always got big spurts of spray in the wrong places.)

    One thing that has helped me mentally is not to worry about those stray hairs. When you wear your hair short, you want every hair to be in place; neat and tidy. I see those little short hairs as new growth due to proper scalp care. We tend to be too hard on ourselves; other people usually don’t notice the things that bother us about our appearance. I have a gap in my front teeth and I hate it, but I find it very interesting on other people. Perfection is overrated. Wear your messy hair like you MEANT for it to be that way.

    Consider this: The journey is the important part. Sure I wish it didn’t take a year or more, but I think if I woke up tomorrow with El Moreno’s hair I’d look and feel ridiculous. All of these daily, weekly, monthly experiences/trials are necessary. As his post says, “You Have To Earn It.”

  3. The next one is gonna be SUPER relevant for me, since I’m at the 14 month mark now.

    Can tie MOST of it up, but I still tend to rock a ball cap with a little tail to keep it out of my face while at work. Thank the Buddha for a relaxed dress code! Haha

    Yoga presents a bit of a challenge, but a messy high tail tends to keep the majority of it out of my face.

    Those stragglers though…

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