Should You Cut In The Awkward Stage?

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The most common question we’ve gotten in the history of time has been, “should I cut in the awkward stage?”

In our definitive post on The Uncomfortable Truth About Awkward Stage Hair, there are dozens of variations to this question, from should I cut in the awkward stage, should I trim the sides, should I use product…WHAT SHOULD I DO?

It’s a fair question. Most guys going through the awkward stage are stumbling through for the first time. Many have been there before but never made it. Still others are back in it after donating their hair to charity and hitting reset.

Whatever the case, it’s unstable ground. As you can read in the comments on that post, our answers to “should I cut in the awkward stage” have mostly focused on trimming around the ears and the back of the neck, but generally to let the rest keep growing.

Sound advice that has served us and others well. Still, we wanted to dive deeper, so we set out to find more concrete answers to whether or not you should cut in the awkward stage. And this time we called on our favorite hair pro and paid a visit to House of Imago Salon in San Diego.

To help us get to the bottom of things, we were lucky enough to enlist the services of three courageous young men in different phases of the awkward stage: the early going, the mid thick of it, and tail-end awkward stage.

Not only did we get real-life awkward stage guys, but each being in different phases gave us a great mix of lengths and hair situations to address. Because we quickly learned there may be different approaches to different phases of awkward—and certainly to different types of hair.

With Jason, Skyler and Billy, we sought the wisdom of Shayna at House of Imago. We started off by asking each guy to tell us what was going on with his hair, how he got there, and what he was trying to accomplish. Once in the chair, Shayna provided in-depth analysis of what she was seeing with each man’s mane and her strategy for approaching.

The main goal: help these guys’ hair look good (or at least ok) while they are growing it out. And you can be the judge, but the guys agree: the results speak for themselves.

So, should you cut in the awkward stage?

The short answer is yes. It will be a different type of cut depending on your hair type, where you’re at and where you’re trying to be, but generally there is a good trimming strategy for most guys suffering with awkward stage hair.

Now it’s your turn.

After watching you should have a good sense of where you stand, and how you might wish to proceed as you navigate through your own awkward stage journey.

Armed with real-life examples and seeing how it’s played out with our fearless volunteers, you can prepare for your own visit to a hair professional, including what you should actually say when you walk in there, detailed further in our post, Confidently Navigate Your Visit to the Salon.

After the big day, one of our spirited volunteer brethren wrote us a follow-up note he wanted to share with all the awkward stage hair guys out there:

So here’s the thing, guys:

Whether you have short hair, long hair, or awkward hair, it really comes down to confidence. Not over-confidence. Just confidence.

Maybe your hair is on point, or maybe it’s a glorious mess. Either way, your hair is an expression of you, it isn’t you.

So just be who you are. If you feel uncomfortable in your own skin, then that’s how others will perceive you.

If you have confidence, then people will feel that and follow it.

I guess what I’m saying is this:

The best way to get through the awkward phase it to just own it. Mold, leave it, laugh at it. In any case, your hair may be awkward, but you are still awesome.

-Jason

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Big thanks to Jason, Skyler and Billy for volunteering, showing up and putting their locks on the line for the greater good of humanity. We hope their bravery helps you power through the awkward stage with courage and commitment.

Last but not least, special thanks to Shayna, if you’re looking for a hair pro in San Diego, give her a ring at House of Imago.

Keep lettin’ it ride man. We’ll see ya on the other side.

 

What other questions do you have about awkward stage hair? Any tips you’d like to share? Don’t keep them to yourself man. Comment below.

Comments

  1. I slicked it back with pomade and kept cutting the back until it was pretty even so I wouldn’t have a mullet, then tied it back and used pins to keep anything sticking out from flying away.

  2. This is a fantastic vid…very informative with good solutions for each guy. The hairstylist knows what she’s doing, and she’s not trying to cut off three inches of hair like some hairdressers do! Great job!

  3. Great watch….. all those cuts worked great on all 3. Now they can move on and grow it out….that woman cutting knew her stuff. Need a blue winter cap they coming in again… keep it long and strong

  4. Dudes. This is exactly what I needed. My mane is getting unruly and it’s time to tame it a bit. Just the information and inspiration I needed this week. Thank you!

  5. to avoid cutting during the akward stage, and to can more quickly tie your mane in a low ponytail, you must first prepare your growing out
    the first subject did begin from a buzzed cut, and now his hair is much layered and thin in the lenght; in that case, it’s better cutting around at the hairline until all the hair come to that lenght; after, the akward stage will take less time ( 10-12 monthes to tie the hair)
    if you slick back the sides during the growth if you want avoid the mullet, you can trim the back, but avoid a shorter back bob ( you must have a little length on the back to tie the hair) ; it was the case of the second subject
    if you accept a mullet ( to wear a high ball) , it will more neat if it’s trimmed straight ( third case)
    when you begin from a pompadour, as the lenght of it give a fringe to the eye brushes, you can begin growing out and you trim at the hairline until all the hair come to this lenght, then you grow out
    congratulations to Shayna who is parsimonious with the scissors !!! too stylists does’nt accept their customers wear longhair…( and cut for making last the akward stage and discourage the subjet to grow out !!!)
    i’ ve shared that video and some explanations in french language : http://chamanedaniel.canalblog.com/archives/2017/07/10/35462554.html

  6. It’s difficult to commit to growing out your hair, only to be confronted with an uneven do for months on end. On the one hand, it would be an easy decision and go get a haircut. For me though, I simply reminded myself of what long hair was like for me years ago and the fun of having style options every day based on mood. I pulled it all back, waited it out and eventually reaped the reward of long, beautiful locks. I switch around between styles, but for me, the most useful and best looking is a half-up/half-down style using a cool Hair Ties For Guys elastic on a small pony in back. (It’s also best for summer top-down driving.) I have received countless positive commentsabout my hair from women, but the half-up always brings the greatest compliments. My best advice to someone enduring the awkward grow-out stage is to just recommit to the ultimate result and tough it out by pulling it back for now. Best of luck, guys!

  7. I’ve been wanting to let my hair grow for a few years and yes, I couldn’t get past the awkward stage. This time I googled pics of men with long hair for inspiration and stumbled upon The Longhairs videos and web site. This isn’t just a product sales web site…it’s more of a support group. Styling and care tips for longhairs and encouragement and hope for us shorthairs. So with this new-found support, I’m doing it this time! It’s really hard to go get that trim when you want your hair to grow longer, but I did it yesterday. My opinion – yes, get that trim. With short hair I can say that every time you get your hair cut it feels good. All those uneven hairs back under control. This time I told the stylist that I want to grow it out and to only cut enough to get it in shape. After the trim, my hair feels so much better; my fingers, comb, and brush glide through my hair much easier. I don’t think longhairs can understand how your hair can “feel” good after a cut but I think shorthairs will realize that it’s not just an awkward “look” that’s bothersome, it’s that awkward “feel” that gets on your nerves. Also if you’re going from “Businessman side-part” cut like I am, when it starts to get long your hair is totally the wrong shape when it grows out. You need to trim it into the right shape for length. After watching the Longhairs videos, I also realized that I’m not leaving work on Friday with a crew cut and coming back to work on Monday with El Rubio hair, which would shock everyone I know. If you’re worried about how others will feel about your long hair, you have to realize that everyone you know is going on the same journey with you. The transformation from short to long hair takes time and your acquaintances will gradually adjust to your long hair along with you. I think getting regular trims along the way to keep it looking and feeling good as it grows will help me beat the awkward stage.

    I grew up being told that men/boys with long hair look like a sissy or girly. Ironically, men with long hair look more masculine. Now that I’ve found The Longhairs site, I understand that it takes masculine courage and determination to let your hair grow out. Thank you guys for not just selling your products but for also providing this great support forum.

    1. MIKE!! Such a good comment man, so stoked you found us and thanks for sharing. Totally agree with everything you said here. I wish you continued success on your journey and we’ll see you around the blog.

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