Are They Not Listening or Are You Not Listenable?
“The definition of genius is taking the complex and making it simple.”
What is Effective Communication?
There’s A Reason We Have Two Ears and Only One Mouth
It’s easy to do a poor job of listening. People are talking to us, but are we truly paying attention? How can you have the answer if you didn’t even hear the question?
Let us introduce the concept of comprehensive listening. What we mean is making a concerted effort to hear people when they’re communicating with you.
It’s safe to say most guys would love to be a strong leader, or the problem solver their loved ones can depend on. The next time someone is trying to connect with you, don’t interrupt. Hear them completely, with empathy, and intent to understand.
You Own What You Say
There’s no such thing as “I was just mad,” or “I didn’t mean it.” You own everything you say.
As men, our word means something. It’s your bond. It’s your honor. It represents you. Choosing our words carefully is a discipline that, for some, takes many years to master.
It’s a by-product of another subject we covered in this series, emotional IQ. Say what you really mean. Own what you say. That’s effective communication.
Is This Thing On?
Naturally, we can’t control whether or not the person we’re speaking to is also making the effort to hear you, but we can make sure we’re doing our part.
In this time of social media and text conversations, it seems harder than ever to really connect with those around us. Leave nothing open to interpretation. Speak with intent, listen with purpose, and you might just have a handle on this effective communication thing.