Awkward Stage Hair

The Uncomfortable Truth About Awkward Stage Hair

In Advocate, Educate by El Rubio346 Comments

You’re In It

Awkward stage hair. You’ve had enough. You’re cutting it off.

You have awkward stage hair and you’re convinced it looks awful. You feel weird, sloppy, unprofessional, and you don’t know what the hell to do with it. You get comments from people, even your mom, telling you your hair looks bad and well-meaning advice that “you should just cut it honey.”


They mean well, but they don’t understand. They’re thinking short-term, not big picture. You’ve got a date with destiny and you need to look good for it. What they don’t realize is your shoulders are throwing a party and they’re waiting for your hair to arrive.

Yet, with every naysayer and glance in the mirror, doubt creeps in, as slowly as your awkward length hair seems to be growing. You question your resolve, and each day a fresh, clean haircut sounds ever-more enticing.

Well friend, we’re here for you. The inspiration and education you need to power through your awkward stage hair is right here.

“Your shoulders are throwing a party and they’re waiting for your hair to arrive.”Fact

Define Awkward Hair Length

The awkward stage can take many shapes and forms, but the generally accepted definition for awkward length hair is from the point when it starts to look like you need a haircut until the the time you can tie it up.

It starts when you start to look shaggy, not so neat and tidy, a little unkempt. When the first person politely asks when you’re getting a haircut.

It’s over when you can tie up all your hair—front, back and sides—into a high ball or other sick mens long hairstyles.

Mitigate the Awkward Stage with a Longhairs Headwrap
Mitigate the Awkward Stage with a Longhairs Headwrap

Where Longhair Dreams Die

At some point in life you become curious. You ask yourself, “what would I look like with long hair? What if I could do that thing in the water where you whip your hair back, or the slow jog beach exit? What if I could tie it up like that?”

Most guys give it a try somewhere between high school and college. It starts as a novelty, driven by curiosity. Which is all well and good until awkward stage hair arrives, when your last clean cut is a distant memory. It becomes noticeable. Conspicuous. Uncomfortable.


It might be a business meeting, a wedding, or some formal affair where a hat doesn’t fly, and that despicable rag on your head is revealed for all the world to see. You have full-blown awkward stage hair, and you’re a shaggy, dogged-looking scoundrel.

That’s when they start chiming in. Shaking your confidence. Doubt grows strong within you. It’s a crucible moment.

“You effectively conceal it with hats and beanies, but sooner or later you’ll be exposed.”

“That’s it. I’m a dignified man. Enough is enough,” you tell yourself as you slink off to the barber shop. “Long time no see!” your barber greets you, all smiles. You make small talk to drown out the voice on your shoulders screaming don’t do it, until the scissors have done irreversible damage and your promising youthful strands lie shorn and mutilated, dead on the barber shop floor.

It stings for a fleeting moment, but you walk out feeling fresh and clean, looking sharp, and the voice is quieted. “I’ll let it grow out next time, when I don’t have a _____ to attend,” you console yourself, as your longhair dreams are swept into a dust pan and discarded unceremoniously.

But you’re only lying to yourself. And this is why curiosity alone won’t carry most men to the promised land.

Incubate Your Flow with a Longhairs Hard Lid or Soft Lid
Incubate Your Flow with a Longhairs Hard Lid or Soft Lid

Anyone Can Have Short Hair

Most men never make it through awkward stage hair. While short hair is relatively easy, with long hair you’ve gotta pay your dues. It takes time, there is no way around that. You can’t get it overnight. It’s not something you can run out and pick up at the store.

When you want a tattoo, sit through a few hours of pain and you’re done. To get in the beard club it’ll take a few months, but there’s no discernible awkward stage or compelling discomfort. From stubble to full flowing beard you can keep it groomed and looking sharp.

Long hair must be earned. It’s like physical fitness: money cannot buy it, you cannot steal, inherit, or borrow it. It can only be gained through dedication and commitment.


“You effectively conceal it with hats and beanies, but sooner or later you’ll be exposed.”

That’s why when you see another longhair, there are certain things you know about him. You know he’s been through awkward length hair, which demonstrates to some degree he doesn’t care what other people think. You know he was willing to bear the temporary discomfort, and complete the longhair journey.

When You’re Ready to Tie It Up

How Long Must I Suffer With Awkward Length Hair?

There’s a goal on the horizon: when you can tie it up, you’ve arrived. But how long will it take? It depends on where you start, how fast your hair grows, and how you take care of it.

Most people’s hair grows about ½ inch per month. If you figure your hair needs to be at least six inches to tie it up, that’s puts you at a minimum of one year. To be safe, figure it’s going to take at least 18 months to get completely free and clear of awkward stage hair.

A few things you can do to promote faster growth (detailed in Quick Tips): keep it healthy and strong, avoid breakage, and keep yourself in good health. But no matter what you do, it’s a waiting game.

“Money cannot buy it. You cannot steal, inherit, or borrow it. It can only be earned through dedication and commitment.”

Dealing With Awkward Hair Length

The easiest and most obvious method for dealing with awkward hair length is wearing a hat or a beanie. Headbands can also help, especially for working out and playing sports. But as we know, these aren’t always acceptable and can’t be relied upon in more formal settings.


There’s a few things you can try. Parting it can be risky, but worth a shot. You can comb it forward and straight down, but you might look like Lloyd Christmas.

You can slick it straight back, which will require a powerful bonding agent, but using products is a slippery slope with awkward stage hair. It starts to look like you’re trying too hard, like this is actually your intended style, rather than a desperate means to an end.

The safest bet is simply going with a “messy look.” It shows you’re not trying too hard, that this is intentional. It says, “yes, I have awkward length hair, it’s messy as hell and I’m comfortable with that.” And that portrays confidence.

Whatever you try, it’s not a bad idea to brush it, comb it, and keep it tidy. If you’re really looking shaggy you can get it cleaned up around the ears and neck—however be cautious with any foray into a barber shop or salon; your resolve may be tested.

“Turns out longhairs and beardsmen may be in different clubs, but they go to the same bars.”

Not every guy can grow facial hair, but this can help if you’re so endowed. Not only will it take some attention off your awkward stage hair, but it tends to balance the face—in fact we’ve found in our research that a clear majority of longhairs also wear facial hair. Turns out longhairs and beardsmen may be in different clubs, but they go to the same bars.


Another consideration is timing. You might time the worst of your awkward stage hair around a break, holiday, or vacation, where you won’t have business or formal nonsense with expectations for your appearance.


Part of a concrete longhair gameplan is responding to people who boo you. First of all it’s your hair. Also it can be helpful to have a prepared statement.
One such response is, “I’m growing it out to donate it to charity.” This will stop most naysayers in their tracks, but shouldn’t be used cheaply. If you use this to deflect negative comments, you must do so with intent and sincerity.

Beyond that, a confident statement of fact that you’re growing long hair and this is simply part of the journey will serve you well.

Finally, The Men’s Hair Forum has a few more tips you may find useful.

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Ultimately, however you mitigate the situation, the truth is you must overcome awkward stage hair. It’s part of the deal, and must be embraced.

It will require resolve, a test of personal character and confidence. You’ll have to say, to some degree, “I don’t care what people think. I don’t care that I look bad, for now. I can deal with it.” And that can be a good thing.

You’re growing it out, and you’re not turning back. You’ve made it this far. And if not now, when?

So be proud. Claim it and rock the shit out of it. Power through the awkward stage with courage and commitment. The Longhairs are waiting for you on the other side.


300+ Comments Can’t Be Wrong


  1. hi guys been growing my hair for about a 10-11 months now and am in deep with the awkward stage. only a couple more inches and i can tie the whole lot up for work. at that point where a hat just isn’t quite cutting it with it all hanging out everywhere. cant wait to have those lushes long locks haha no shame.

    any tips on styling and managment for work and i have a wedding to go to soon

    take a look

  2. Hey guys,
    Three years ago grew my hair out to about 7 inches long before I gave into the pressure and got it cut. Now I’m 1 year into the grow and my hair in fronts reaching my bottom lip and the backs got some great curls. Only thing is I have 1 month before I start work and I don’t think it’s quite long enough to put into a bun yet. Been letting it hang loose for a couple weeks now but if I run my hand through the top too much I feel like it gets too flat. You have any ideas on products I could use to keep it looking fresh while I’m at work.

    1. Author

      Yo Dennis! Pumped to have you here man.

      As to the work situation, you may not have to tie into a ball. Can you just make a ponytail? That is often acceptable depending on your job.

      I would also recommend giving sea salt spray or a light styling balm.

      Hang in there man! If you don’t grow it out now…then when?? Keep us posted.

  3. YO BROS! It’s been a year since my last cut and still going strong brothas!! First time I’ve ever had long hair and I love it, going to the beach soon and ready to let the hair fly!! I’ve gotten a lot of comments telling me how bad it looks and how I need to cut it but now the good comments are flooding in, made it out of the awkward stage finally and everyone’s lovin’ the new look. STAY STRONG

  4. Hi ive been trying to grow my hair out long since early summer so its been about 8 months from a real short taper fade haircut.
    Im definitely in the awkward stage and leaning towards ending my journey early

    The bangs are really long and hats dont really work for me cause I got bushy eyebrows. (Which is a seperate issue)
    Is there any styling product that would help me keep going for long hair?
    I never used product before and i have strait type hair
    Or do i need a haircut to help the hair grow?

  5. I’ve been growing my hair since July from 1/16 of an inch on the sides and about an inch on top. It’s at the awkward stage. Always getting in my eyes when I bend down and I never know how to style it for an event. I have a wedding Saturday and I’m lost. My mom and aunt keep telling me to cut it but i don’t want to do that. The top of my hair comes down to my upper lip and the back hits my shoulders. The sides come about 3/4 to my jawline. How should I style it to look clean?

    1. Author

      Andy! Man, looks like we missed the wedding date. What did you end up doing? I would have recommended maybe cleaning up around your ears and neckline, maybe something with some texture to keep it out of your eyes.

      How did it work out? PS: I started at the same length as you

  6. Hey guys,
    My names Malone and I’m 15 years old..Iv been trying to grow my hair for a while but my dad has always been a ass about it and always got me to cut it. But i made a deal with him so now I’m growing it out. A few things that really hurt about this beside the awkward stage, for me is the head aches i get now and then….now i have now idea if they are related but all i know is i never get them when my hair is short. I can never feel the great sensation of air blowing against my scalp, sound weird but its true cause i have been blessed and cursed with a thick head of hair.

    One thing i really want to know is if hair gel stunts hair growth…cause i have school and they are very strict on hair length gut when i put gel on it looks nice neat and it looks short.

  7. Hello everyone! I started my journey back in June from about 4 inches on top and a tapered fade at the sides, anyways now the sides are poofy and not as long as the top obviously but I don’t really mind that the real issue is the back since it seems to have decided to grow faster plus add the weight of the top back hair and it’s starting to look like a mullet, can I trim just the back a bit or thin it out, starting a new job in February and can’t wear hats :/ which is my go to solution most days,

  8. I’ve heard that wearing hats or bennies are bad for your hair yet you recomend to wear one almost evry day is true or not?

    also I am curently in the akward stage it as been 3 months since I’ve started to grow them. I started with 2mm on the sides and long on top. I am now at 3 inches on the sides and 5 on top but my hairgrows almost 1 inch per month so it wont take long.

    im looking forward to the day I can tie them up because I work at a restaurant and its really annoying

    nathan gilbert

    P,S : sorry for my english I am actually french from Québec.

    1. What up Nathan! Hats and beanies are fine and will help when your hair is virtually uncontrollable.

  9. I started with a crew cut and 5 Months later my hair is level to my ears! the best advice i can give is wear headbands, slick your hair back or just own it. Own that look. lots of guys can actually pull it off!

  10. Im growing my hair out from a previous buzzcut 4 months ago, and the hair on the side of my head (Especially my sideburns) are getting long. would trimming my sideburns be a bad idea?

  11. Yo fellas! I tried posting a few days ago but don’t think it worked so I’m trying again. My last post was a little over 2 months ago and gotta say and still going strong! Ive decided to avoid the barber and just let it all grow together, i haven’t had a cut since early april and it just about reaches the end of my nose. Anyway I’m calling in cause of a RED ALERT! I have Homecoming this saturday i need to look somewhat decent for my date, I’m in the thick of awkward stage right now and it can get POOF. Any tips what to do for this??? i don’t want to get it trimmed and i like the rough look just not the messy slum dog look for hoco Thanks Bros

    1. Author

      Yo Alex! Saw your previous comment just didn’t have a chance to write you a proper response. I just hit you direct via email so we can link up. HOMECOMING COMING IN HOT!

  12. Yo mates! It’s me again, been about 2.5 months since my last post and here to say I’m still going strong! But I have a situation coming up…. the 15th I have homecoming and I need to look somewhat presentable, I don’t want to clean it up and make it look like I’m trying to hard, I like the natural look but it gets poofy without a hat. I haven’t seen the barber since my last cut in April and my hair is about the same length all around, my bangs reach bout half way down my nose. Any idea on what to do for homecoming??? Thanks mates!

  13. I’m a high school teacher starting the journey to the full man bun. My length currently is probably a little shorter than “medium” length, my bangs will reach my eyelid if I pull it down. Any advice on how to navigate the awkward stage in a school/professional environment?

    1. Author

      Yo Matt! Glad to have you here man, and congratulations on your resolve to embark on the long hair journey. You can sign up on this page for all our best tips and advice on how to navigate the awkward stage.

      You can do it amigo!

  14. Hey everyone, I’m almost six months done with my hair journey and I am starting the awkward stage. It really sucks since my hair is thick and wavy and kinda coarse, so I’m wondering if it will ever be able to flow down to the shoulders?

    1. Author

      It will man. It’s going to take a while though. Your patience and fortitude shall be tested. We’re here for ya!

  15. My 12 yr old son is letting his hair grow out and I have no idea how to tame it haha. It’s been 9-10 months since his last hair cut…

  16. I’m almost 3 months growing out an undercut. I’ve got curly,wavy hair. It’s beginning to look a little weird what with the short length and curls forming. But I am refraining from straightening it at all (which is why I cut my hair in the first place–damage). Eventually, I’d like hair like Dave Mustaine..oh yeahhh.\m/
    I take biotin (5,000 mcg a day) and drink at least 2 bottles of water a day. So far it seems to be helping. I also condition every other time I shower and shampoo when my hair begins to look weighed down or greasy. I tend not to sweat too much, oddly enough.
    Every few weeks I’ll do a hot oil treatment (put olive oil in the microwave for a few seconds, put it all over my hair, then leave it in for a couple hours. Shampoo and condition as normal.) Makes it super soft & shiny!
    Here’s to growing out long manes to headbang with later!

  17. Hey everyone! I initially started simply growing out the top, while keeping the sides and back extremely short. It’s been a little over a year now, and I’m still only growing out the top. My hair tends to be a little dry/frizzy and is definitely wavy, which gives the impression that it’s much shorter than it actually is.

    I wear a hat pretty much every day to avoid having to akwardly manage it. But eventually I want to have it flow naturally without looking poofy and ridiculous. My quesiton to you guys is if it’s possible or even a good idea to grow out the sides and back (which are at 1/4 inch) and have them catch up with the top (which is at around 7 inches)? Or should I start over? I really don’t want to, though.

    I hope this all made sense.
    Thanks guys.

    1. Totally makes sense. Just let it all grow out. Yes, you need to let the sides go. Once it is all hitting the shoulders you can probably get a simple trim to even up everything if anything seems a bit longer. Keep pushing!

  18. Help! I am going into month 5 here shortly without a trim. The problem is I am starting to grow a mullet. Should I trim the back? I am almost 30 and have never gone more than a month or two without a haircut!

    1. Author

      Yo Cj! Glad to have you here! Sign up for our best awkward stage tips, which includes our video, “Should You Cut in the Awkward Stage?” You can sign up right here on this page.

      The short answer is, it’s not a bad idea to get a trim to keep it neat and tidy. But be careful when you go in there!

      PS: I didn’t grow it out for the first time until I was 30. Keep lettin it ride man!

  19. Howdy fellas, great blog post and solid advice on the encouragement and motivation. I have recently embarked on my own journey to earn my chance in getting long hair and the countless styles I can try out when I do have it. I haven’t really measured my hair before but I’m going to assume it is around 4 inches give or take just by looking at it with the top of my hair being able to almost reach the tip of my nose when combed straight down.

    I am definitely in the awkward stage of my hair growing process but I am definitely not ashamed in what people think of me with my hair because I know what I’m going to do with it and am purely trying it for the experience.

    The top of my hair is a little longer than the hair on my sides and back. I am just wondering if I’ll ever need to really trim my top hair so it doesnt grow too long out of proportion with my sides and back?

    Judging from your guys’ responses in the comments thread related to these concerns, I’m guessing the only real thing to do is just let it ride out until its simply long enough to tie.

    Either way, I have set foot on this journey with a clear mind and am on a path of change. Growing my hair out changing styles is one of my means in changing my ways. Don’t worry Long hairs, I aint giving in!~

    1. Author

      Henry! Hell yes man! We’re glad to have you here! Check out our video, “Should You Cut in the Awkward Stage?” You can find it easily by signing up for our best awkward stage tips and tricks, right here on this page.

      Alright man, don’t give in and keep lettin it ride! Thanks for the comment amigo.

  20. Thanks Rubio! I really want to make it this time and I’m not going to give up thanks for the encouragement. One last question, do you know how long the awkward stage last for? Is it until you are able to tie it back or doesn’t it end earlier

  21. Hey guys, In my junior year of high school and trying to get longer hair, I’ve tried it before but always ditched and cut it down because I have really thick hair and it’s gets poofy on top and on the sides, it’s been about 4 months now and I can finally slick it back somewhat if I wear a hat backwards for a while. It’s still super poofy if I’m not wearing a hat though and when I wake up and my parents and friends are telling me to cut it all off. Any tips? How much longer do you think I have until I can tie it up??

    1. Author

      Yo Alex! Thanks for writing in man, glad to have you here.

      If you want me to be honest, it usually takes at least a year until you can tie it up, but everyone’s hair grows at a different rate.

      If you can muster the courage to power through, the best tip I can give you is how to respond to the naysayers. Tell them you’re growing it out so you can donate for The Great Cut.

      If it’s not long enough to donate by 3/16/19 we’ll give you a Waiver of Honor until the next Great Cut, which will probably be two or three years later. And it will get the naysayers off your back in the meantime.

      At any rate man, hope you stick with it! The Longhairs will be here for ya when you break through.

      1. Thanks Rubio! I’m hoping I can make it this time! One last question… how long will it stay in the awkward stage for?? And is there anything I can do about it??

        1. Author

          It will last a solid three months, and there are some things you can do to mitigate it! If you haven’t already, sign up for our best awkward stage tips and advice.

          Alright man!

  22. Hey guys I’ve been repping the basic soccer cut for the past few years, long on top but shaved sides. The top part of my hair can run down to around my nose if I put it straight down, but my sides and back are still a bit short; I got them buzzed with a 5 guard around a month and half ago. But I’m going into my freshman year of college now and will be going to school in Cali and want a flow. How do I go from here? Do I cut the top to even it out with the back and sides or what? Thanks for the help

  23. i’m going to give up…. it been year and 2 months and my hair still looks terrible… until now i could style it somehow, but now i cant do it…. no matter what i do my hair still looks awful…

  24. Today I had my first “You need a haircut”

    I’m proud to say I officially began the awkward stage journey my friends!

    If someone need motivation the awkward stage is actually not changing anything, people don’t give a [BLEEP] if you’ve a clean cut or not (even the girl you’re into) so stick with it and don’t give up!


    1. Author

      Welcome to the team Antoine! Keep lettin it ride mate.

  25. Hi Rubio!
    I’ve been reading all the comments here to get motivated to stay on track and push through the awkward stage. I am now 6 months in without a haircut. I have a question. My bangs reach my lips and my hair at back is like 3 inches.
    1. Do I trim my neckline because now it looks very weird and shaggy. I have heavy wing action also behind my head.

    Your reply will be much appreciated.

    1. Author

      Yo AP! Sign up for our best awkward stage tips right here on this page and the answer will be revealed to you.

      Thanks for writing in friend!

  26. Hey everyone, I recently started growing my hair out about 3 months ago and am currently in the awkward stage which sucks ALOT. I have about 4 inches on top and 2.5 on the sides. My hair is very wavy so will that make my hair take longer to grow out, and do you have any advice on what I should continue doing with it? Also, does anybody know why my hair is always so dry?

    1. Author

      Hi Stephen,

      Thanks for writing in man, good to hear from you. First, you can do this. Stick with it.

      Wavy hair doesn’t necessarily grow slower, but it will tend to take longer to “fall,” or appear longer. Depending on how curly your hair is it might grow “out” before it grows “down.” At any rate, there is a journey ahead.

      We have lots of tips and advice for awkward stage hair. If you haven’t already I suggest you subscribe at the bottom of this post:

      “Power Through The Awkward Stage
      Get our best tips, advice & motivation
      for growing your hair out & dealing with the awkward stage.”

      Everyone’s hair is different, some oily, some dry. You might give our moisturizing hair serum a try, it does wonders.

      Cheers mate! Keep lettin it ride!

  27. Hey guys,

    About ten months in from a short, but not buzz, cut.

    Had a few ups and downs with the process along the way but am really struggling this week. Tend to get a lot of negative comments and opinions but have always pulled through. But this week I have been craving a short, tidy Barnet. Done the whole hat and beanie coverup so am struggling with what to do.

    How many months in do you think it should take before a hairdresser can make it look presentable?

    Big love for this website though!

    1. Author

      Yo James! Glad to have you here man, and we know the struggle.

      May I suggest subscribing for our best awkward stage tips and advice at the bottom of this post:

      “Power Through The Awkward Stage
      Get our best tips, advice & motivation
      for growing your hair out & dealing with the awkward stage.”

      There you’ll find some good articles, videos and tutorials, as well as advice on when/how to trim it during the awkward stage.

      For the negative comments, you can always tell them you are growing it out for The Great Cut.

      Hope this helps man. Stay strong!

  28. I decided to grow mine out a few months back, and this article came at just the right time! Thanks for the article!

    Here’s a quick question. Up until this point I’ve had a style that was shaved on the sides and somewhat long / slicked back on top. (Like this: so I’ve got two different lengths going on. At this stage in the journey, it’s about 5″ on top and 1″ on the sides where I used to shave.

    Would it be better to trim the top back so the there’s less difference between the top and sides, or should I just roll with what I’ve got? I hate to cut it when I’m trying to grow it out, but I’m just thinking of what’s best for the long game. I’ve heard the sides grow faster than the top so maybe it’ll be less of an issue with time.

    1. Author

      I’d let it go as is until it’s unbearable. Then go and get a slight trim to even things out a bit, maybe not entirely, just to clean things up.

      There will be some difficult times ahead. But you can make it.

  29. This is a great post and I am so glad to find this community of longhairs to draw inspiration from. At 55, I’m a bit late to the game, but I still have fairly thick hair although thinning slightly on top. At ~ 6 months, I’m just easing into the awkward stage, but having found this site, I know I can make it to the finish line. The beard is all gray, but the hair is still dark, but I have no intention of dying. It ought to be interesting. Lol

    1. Author

      Heck yeah Greg, you’re in the right place! We’re glad to have you here.

      Send us your mane updates on social media! And keep lettin it ride.


    I stumbled across this blog after hearing the word “mullet” one too many times from coworkers. The photos in that link were just taken a moment ago. I don’t use product. I just get it wet throughout the day to keep it at bay.
    What we are looking at is an exmormon guy that always had a little combover hairstyle growing up that transitioned into an Army nug that had to rock the high and tight. Now he’s fed up and growing the bastards out to their full glory.

    It’s been 7 months of awkward so far. Turns out my hair has been wavy all along. Who knew? I don’t have the option of facial hair. I come from a line of strong German farmers, but my great great grandfather fell in love with a Cherokee Indian. Their hot hot love for each other managed to sing the face follicles right out of our general pool. I have tried 3 times in 7 months to grow a goatee. The product of my vain attempts leave Michael Cera looking like Moses in comparison.

    I’m glad that I found this blog. I was two shakes of a mullet away from hitting up a barber shop. I can’t wear any hats at work so I don’t have that security blanket to hide under. Blast it all.

    This is a serious learning experience. A hair tie feels as foreign in my hand as a smart phone to a 95 year old.

    Hope to see you both on the other side. Cheers!

    1. Author

      Yo Steve Z!

      Haha, great comment.

      Glad to have you here and thanks for writing in.

      Grow it out man. What better time than now?

      Hope you will power through, we’ll be here!


  31. Yo boys, can’t believe this article is still active. I’m 17, been growing out since October 2017, where it was relatively “long” to begin with, maybe 3 inches on top. When I had it short I would pomade it up and over and it worked super well. As of a couple weeks ago, I’m starting to get some heavy wing action in the back and sides, and my hair for the last month has been kinda Bieber-ish with sweepy out-of-my-eyes bangs. I have straight blond hair so it was alright, but now it’s too long (about to the tip of my nose if it’s straight down) and I need to start training it to go back. I can’t put it up, and if I plan on still growing it out I probably need a part somewhere… right?

    1. Author

      Yo Ryan! Glad to have you here. Gotta watch out for that wing action.

      All our best content on awkward stage hair is right here.

      You may not need to train it “back.” If you’re trying to “slick it back,” then yes. But you’ll find over time it will start to develop a natural way of falling. Best thing you can do right now is a hat or a beanie. For times when you can’t do that, I recommend using just a small amount of product and “shaking” it all out and letting it fall. You’re gonna end up pushing it out of your eyes for a while man. It’s a fact of life.

  32. Alright boys, I grew my hair out starting January of my sophomore year and I cut it last month (I’m a senior now). BIGGEST MISTAKE!! I don’t know why but the long hair just calls my name. I’ve got another year and a half journey ahead of me so I’ll keep you guys updated. Long live the long hair!!

  33. Wassup wassup 😁 I’m growing my hair out because I miss my long hair when I was eight years old (it was MBL 😭🙏), but my mom made me cut it. I’m back in the game now, four months strong. I’ve been getting compliments on how great it looks since last month. It really inspires you to keep going when you hear those nice compliments. I notice my hair likes the bad stuff the curly people method states not to use (dimethicones and parabens). I feel it’s because I have 3a-4a hair and everything in between. Also, I notice one month my hair will look awkward, then the next month it’ll all even out, then the next month it does it again. That’s normal right? Or could it just be because of all my different curl patterns? Also my hair grows faster on the top than anywhere else. That’s a good thing because it all should be the same length in due time, correct?

  34. My almost 8 year olf decided he wants long hair so we’re starting that journey together since I’m the one who would cut his hair lol but I always wanted his hair long anyway .. I’m glad he decided to give it a try 😀
    Hopefully he’s out of that shaggy look tho 😂 As a mom I try to make him very presentable for school pictures and such but hey long hair is long hair :b

  35. YESSSS!!! Thank you! You read my mind. I always joke “yah I’m growing it out so basically I’ve been having a bad hair day for the past 9 months” (shrug). But you do get to the point where you just want to lop it off because you know you could be sharp and handsome again in 20 minutes or less.
    But thanks for cheering us to push through!

  36. Hi
    I have dry thick curly hair I started growing my hair but after 3 month it looks like a ball on my head …please help any type of hair can be long ?

  37. I’m currently growing my hair out and this article gave me so much validation for my decision.

    I’m very open to social media and I’ve been getting so many response to my hair. But I’m also just always baked af so I’m usually like, “okay idgaf”

    But I also get those thoughts of just cutting it.

    I just wish I can style it to some wavy or something because I have straight Asian hair and it just looks so gross rn 😭😭 but im going through with it 👌🏼

  38. Great article. You had a lot of funny comments in the article, very entertaining.
    I am a sophomore in high school.
    Currently about 4 months Into my quest to achieve longhair, and I am definitely at an awkward stage. I have very thick straight brown hair that I dry with a towel, then my hair naturally floats down to my forehead, and I end up having a little poof on my head. But my concern is, I have an oblong face shape, which is when your head is longer vertically than it is wide, which basically means I have a huge forehead. I don’t know what or how exactly I want to end up styling my hair, but I am concerned that when it’s Finally long enough to tie up, it won’t look good because of my huge forehead. Any advice?

    1. Author

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  39. Thanks for this man. I’m definitely in the thick of it now. Every now and then I play with the idea of getting it cut, but always kept at bay with a quick visit to this amazing website and a read of the handy tips and advice. I’m about 2 months away from being able to tie it up. My biggest issue is styling it at work, where I can’t wear my hats.. I think I’ve started relying too heavily on product, to keep it back and out the way. If I don’t add wax n spray it just interferes with my face and I end up chucking in more product. Any advice on that?

    Thanks again for the website and them is blog in particular, it really is helping me through it!

  40. Thanks for the advice my friend. Funnily enough, Ive been using the coconut oil to reduce the frizz in my hair – the conditioning aspect is almost an afterthought!
    Perhaps a leave in conditioner might be a better idea if I’m overdoing the coconut oil or even a touch of brylcreem?

    1. Author

      Not familiar with brylcreem just yet, but definitely try the leave-in conditioner. I have used these a few times and it’s especially useful when your hair is very dry.

      Alright man, keep rockin!

  41. Excellent site for encouraging guys to push on with the long hair trip. It really helps knowing we’re all going through the same pain. I’m an older bloke in my fifties and have embarked on a one year ‘leave alone’ plan – aiming for the old beach hippy look! My straight hair is about four/five inches on top right now and swept back with parting in middle. My last barber visit was five weeks back. My beard is quite full which makes my hair currently look like it’s sitting perched on top of my head. It’s not good.

    My problem thoug is this: I’m using a small amount of medium hold mousse to help my hair stay back so it doesn’t just fall over my face. I’m hoping that in time, the weight and length will allow it to stay back without product. I can’t visualise what the end result will look like in a year’s time! Am I being optimistic here, or will I always need product? And should I be using mousse at all or am I just masking the awkward stage?
    The only other product I use is coconut oil which a rub in each day to control the frizz and add a bit of weight.

    1. Author

      Yo Steve! Thanks for writing in, we’re glad to have you here. Yes, in time you won’t need to use products like that. The coconut oil is a good idea, but daily might be more than you need. Once a week or even twice a month should be plenty for the moisturizing/conditioning benefits. For the hold/weight, the mousse or a pomade might give you better results, but realize that because you’re growing, you might grow out of those soon. Literally and figuratively. Stick with what’s working in the meantime.

      1. Hey mate
        It’s two years since I posted my comments to you at the start of my ‘hair journey’ and I’ve pretty much left it alone.
        Here’s a funny thing though – a couple of weeks back I went to the barbers ( at my wife’s request) to have the back tidied up and balanced. Not too much off, just levelled across the back as it’s rather straggly. It’s about 12-14 inches long just now, and for a 58 year old, doesn’t look too bad at all. Imagine my surprise when the hairdresser flatly refused to touch it. His view was that it should just grow out the way it wants to, straggly and all, and that to try and shape a guys hair would simply make it look like a ladies hairstyle!
        I was well pleased though I suspect my wife wasn’t when I returned home intact!
        Love this site and two years on, still flick through for ideas and inspiration.

        1. Author

          Haha, Steve that is great to hear. And hilarious. Thrilled you are still letting it ride. Glad to have you here.

  42. Hey Guys,

    I’m looking for advice.

    I’m looking to grow out my hair, and I’m trying to avoid the barbers because that’s what I’ve always told them but they always just take off way too much!

    I have extremely thick and wavy/curly hair. I shower at night and I have to shampoo and condition every-night because it just gets so oily and dirty even within one day. Because it is so big, in the morning I rinse and do a quick condition in conjunction with a frizz control lotion. This is what I have found works best, but it is a lot of effort on the hair. I never use product, but given I’m at a stage where it could possibly slick it back behind the ears, I’m wondering it its worth a try. If I do, what type of product should I use? Should I not do my morning routine if I do?

    I place my bangs to one side normally, but they are getting really quite long! Can I trim them, or does that screw me over down the line. I would like to have a shoulder length head of hair.

    I always get a mullet eventually. Can I trim my neck line? I want it all to be a little even in length right?


    1. Author

      Yo Christopher!

      Thanks for writing in. We are all looking for advice.

      I suggest you sign up for our best awkward stage tips and advice, there’s a form where you can do that right here on this page.

      Sign up, and ease the suffering.

  43. Hey Fellas, I grew my hair out real quick in 15 months from a buzz i had enough to donate 10 in outside of a ponytail. ive got this wavy thick black mane and at its longest at roughly 15-16 inches it was beautiful. After donating the ponytails i got a buzz for the St Baldricks challenge. gotta tell you, its a blast having long hair. Girls love playing with guys long hair, for formal events when i slicked it back or tied it up it drew more compliments than the guy with a taper fade and his name carved in his hair. God those awk phases SUCKED!!! sometimes it would just floof up so i looked like a damn poodle or had a bowling ball for a head, but powering through that shit was totally worth it. Long hair is the way to go. Donating my hair and the St Baldricks challenge was immensely rewarding and inspired so many others to grow their manes out like real men. Men were meant/designed to have long hair and beards. no matter how patchy or slow grow them out. its the way to be. look at Jesus, any pic of any god.

    1. Author

      You’re the man RK! Thanks for your comment and sharing your story, it’s inspiring indeed!

      So, the question is, are you growing it back out? If so we hope you’ll join us for The Great Cut.

  44. My name is Bruce. I have been wanting to grow my hair for a long time, but every time I did it, it always managed to get cut off. My hair is almost close to being at 4 months and my sides look uneven and my back needs a little touch-up. I still want to grow my hair out, so what can I tell my barber what I should get for the sides and back? I want my hair to go through a few more months of growing until it reaches a length to where I can get it styled.

  45. So I want to grow my hair out and have shaved my completely bald no hair but am giving up on that venture of baldness. I last shaved my head 5-6 days ago. My main question is while going through the process should I just let it grow or take the sides and back for awhile and let the top grow?

    1. Author


      Step 1 is don’t shave your head any more.

      Let it grow all around for one year then call us back.

      Don’t give in, amigo.

  46. hi, my hair is on the fourth month of growth and started with a tapered hairline from almost no hair and the sides were a fade from a #2 clipper to about a #4. what really bothers me is that the barber cut the top with scissors and oh boy did he do it wrong. He left the hair close to the whorl longer and started scaling it down (not simetricaly, like, there are places longer than the rest) till the front where he just cut a “bang” with one move and the “corners” of my hairline were cut with clippers. Forgot to say that it was about 1.5 inches on the whorl and 1/4 inches on the front. After about 2 weeks I started noticing the mess that the barber left and tried getting it fixed. BIG MISTAKE. The barber left some places near the whorl looking squared and remained almost the same length, and in the back left side he left a “crater” and it looked mych shorter than the rest of the hair. Now that its grown a bit i can see that the hairs on the side look natural but the ones on top look squared and really pisses me off, and the whorl just has bulges next to it and looks horrible if my hair isnt clean. Should I get a haircut now or later to fix the look?

    1. Author

      First I think you should switch barbers. Or better yet, give up on them entirely.

      My go-to would be to let it grown and get a little bit more length before trying to go back. At least a few months. From there check out this video.

  47. Alright guys I’m in the process of growing my hair out. My last cut was in February or March I believe. I’d usually get like a 2 on the sides and just have them thin out the time I comb it over to give it the swoosh look lol. But I feel like I might be in the awkward stage. And was wondering if you had any tips. I usually shampoo and condition hair every 2-3 days and use a deep conditioner every so often. After I wash I use a leave in conditioner as well. Right now I’m just at the point where I brush it back and throw on a beanie or hat. Or if I’m going to gym I use a headband. Also at work I have to wear a hard hat so sometimes I use a headband there as well or just brush it back and put my hat on. Just needing some advice or tips. Any is greatly appreciated. If there’s a way to post pics I will

    1. Author

      Yo CJ! Glad to have you here amigo. Definitely subscribe on this page for our best awkward stage tips. Also here’s a bonus tip.

      Keep lettin it ride man, you’ll be in the game before you know it!

  48. It took me 2 years to get to the point my long hair really started to look good. I started from a #1 buzz cut, which is pretty extreme. But now I couldn’t be happier. It’s worth the inconvenience to reach your goal, hang on and don’t give up. You will get there, if you can be patient. Love my long hair and it was worth every bit of sacrifice.

  49. Been attempting to grow my hair out for the longest time ever really. It’s not that long, but it’s getting there :).

    Currently at 4.5 inches on the top. However it’s 3.5 inches on my cowlick lol. I kept the cowlick shorter when I had short hair, so I’ll one day even it up to the rest of my hair.

    2.5 inches on the side. For the past 4 months I’ve had two trims on the back. Now that I’m getting close to having long enough hair on the front, I think I should be able to start letting the back of my hair grow out.

    This has definitely been an awkward stage for me. I just find ways to style it when I work, and I wear hats for the most part when I’m not at work. The hat actually gives me a reasonably good look, as it helps to “pull my hair back” on the front.

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